Miss Understood: Giving Thanks

Miss Understood: Giving Thanks

Recently we all celebrated Thanksgiving. To some, it’s simply a day to get together with family and eat, but for others it holds a deeper meaning.

Personally, I believe that it’s the perfect day to reflect and realize how fortunate I am. No matter how I’m feeling most of the time, I’m thankful that I’m still alive.

Arlene Alonzo Grau

Arlene Alonzo Grau

How can I possibly say that if my life consists of pain, daily medication routines, countless doctors visits, and the occasional hospitalization?

Well, I don’t see all of that when I look back. What I see is a beautiful life filled with challenges and triumphs. I see two blessings in the form of my children, something no one could ever take away from me. I see friends who became family and family that never left my side.

How can I be anything but grateful for everything I have?

I refuse to focus on the negative side of things. Divorce, I overcame that. Nearly dying, I’m still here. Pain on a daily basis, it too shall pass.

I’m definitely not untouchable, but I do believe that God has given me this trial, if I can call it that, so that I may help others and strengthen my faith. I grew up in a Christian home with pastors as parents, so they instilled a sense of understanding that there is a reason and purpose for everything. No matter how difficult the journey is, the finish line is always worth pursuing.

In the meantime I’m thankful for the people I’ve met along the way, the new friends I’ve added to my support group, the old friends who have yet to leave my side, my amazing family, my best friend who is also my mother, and last but certainly not least — my daughters Aubrey and Addysun.

I’ve never known or felt unconditional love until I had my children. They are the reason I fight so hard, they keep me motivated, they keep me sane and they make me laugh when all I want to do is cry.

My life may be hectic at times, but it’s the only one I have, and for me it’s a blessing. I give thanks everyday for everything I do and don’t have. Others may have a more difficult situation, but if you’re still alive I believe that alone is something to give thanks for.

If we continue having a positive outlook on life we may be able to make our situations a lot more comfortable and bearable.

Arlene and girlscropped1Arlene Alonzo Grau lives in Paramount, California. She suffers from rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, lupus, migraine, vasculitis, and Sjogren’s disease.

The information in this column is not intended to be considered as professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Only your doctor can do that!  It is for informational purposes only and represent the author’s personal experiences and opinions alone. It does not inherently or expressly reflect the views, opinions and/or positions of National Pain Report or Microcast Media.