By Terry Longlin.
We asked our readers what they would say to a fellow chronic pain patient (who called himself Bernie)
who wrote on Thanksgiving that he was considering taking his life in December on his birthday. Your
reaction was breathtaking not only in its volume but in the sympathy and reality you expressed.
Read here (make sure to go to the comments sections).
One response in particular came from Terry Longlin, a 60-year-old married man who suffers daily from
several chronic pain conditions (and has for the last ten years), has seen his medication dramatically
reduced and has suffered other personal loss. I asked him if it was ok to republish to make sure you all
read it. He actually left two comments—it was the second one that we publish here:
Hello again Bernie. I commented previously to your plight and I just wanted to add some more
information that didn’t seem significant until I read other people’s comments.
September 20, 2017, my 27-year-old son committed suicide. He took dozens of over the counter
medications along with a lot of cough syrup. The point of me sharing this with you along with everyone
else is this. Suicide ruins more lives than just the victim, it affects EVERYONE who knows and loves you.
You would think that after 14 months I should feel better, well I don’t. I’m 60 years old and there’s not a
day goes by that I don’t have tears in my eyes and an emptiness in my heart. Please consider your family
and friends who love you, suicide is very selfish and it will affect EVERYONE that you know.
You have choices, suicide affects numerous people’s lives horribly. Try something else, counseling, anti-
depressants, etc. Myself, I have been trying a chronic pain psychologist and with some success. She’s a
normal psychologist who also teaches meditation to relieve physical pain. It’s kind of like being
hypnotized except you’re aware of everything going on. So she repeats the same visualizations every
time you go in, with the hope that you will memorize everything, so you can mentally bring your own
pain levels down no matter where you are.
The first time I saw her I was shocked, I had no pain whatsoever, for an hour after. The next 3 times were very similar with one distinction, when I was home I tried the same technique on myself and got 30
mins of relief at least five times. It’s like anything you do, practice makes perfect. She just repeats the
same words over and over until it becomes second nature, the hope is that you could use this technique
on yourself without lying down or closing your eyes. The last time in her office it lasted 3 hours! Please
try anything and everything. I would give ANYTHING to talk to my son again, he was my best friend. Your
life is so precious, please consider it all.