What are doing with your “Between Space”?

What are doing with your “Between Space”?

As every person in the entire world is confronting COVID-19, we are all now living with this “between space”. We are dreaming of many things quickly returning to life as we once knew it while also having to learn to live with these all-encompassing restrictions which brings excessive restrictions stress to all our lives. As difficult as all of this is, we have no choice but to confront these trying circumstances by acting on the notion that our individual efforts are critical to the treatment of the collective society. We all must do the best we can to get through this crisis. This virus does not care what ethnicity you are, if you have wealth or if your health is perfect. We are all vulnerable to contracting this. For many of us, this may a time to take a moment and ask ourselves if we want to return to life as we were living. Perhaps we are learning something about ourselves which might suggest the need or desire for us to consider mapping out an alternative future.

Ellen Lenox Smith

Our Unitarian minister spoke this past on this topic and it really hit home. The main message was we need to re-evaluate our lives and society and learn from this horror we are stuck in. If we are the lucky ones able to continue from disaster as it diminishes, we should then engage in a degree of some constructive introspection. We need to consider those areas of our lives we might want to change and what aspects of our lives we might want to hold on to.

Life will be changed from the event. Like WWII, the victory gardens became huge and the woman showed their amazing skills and strength taking over many men’s jobs. Today, many families have carried on with their gardening joys and woman have become more recognized as more than just mothers. As an old proverb suggests, within very crisis one can find opportunity. This is clear in our present circumstances. Can we take advantage of this crisis and create some positive outcomes?

So, when the symptoms of crisis subside, how will you want to be defined? Those of us living with chronic problems clearly would love to see our conditions resolved, but unfortunately, for many that will never be the reality. But there are things we can learn from this. The biggest issue is to offer our gifts to others. This may sound simplistic, but we need to remember no matter how handicapped we have become, we are here, alive and can reach out to others to help comfort, share, help, and care. I know many coping with medical complications don’t feel like they have anything to offer. But you are not a without value, you matter! And you can be there for others.

So ponder while you have this time to live through what you must give to others. How can you reach out despite your limitations? Stay strong, stay safe and may we all get past this horror soon with grace and caring for our fellow humans. We have all worked so hard to remain constructively engaged in life, so let’s make our time count!

May life be kind to you,

Ellen Lenox Smith

Author of: It Hurts Like Hell!: I Live With Pain- And Have a Good Life, Anyway, and My Life as a Service Dog!

The information in this column should not be considered as professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. It is for informational purposes only and represents the author’s opinions alone. It does not inherently express or reflect the views, opinions and/or positions of National Pain Report.

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Authored by: Ellen Lenox Smith

Ellen Lenox Smith and her husband Stuart live in Rhode Island. They are co-directors for medical cannabis advocacy for the U.S. Pain Foundation, along with Ellen on the board and they both also serve as board members for the Rhode Island Patient Advocacy Coalition. For more information about medical cannabis visit their website. https://ellenandstuartsmith.squarespace.com/

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Dear Tony Hardy, deeply sorry that you had to lose your family and so close together. That is known as post traumatic stress. Your doctor very crasp for his verbal response. Life can be cruel and so can people. If you move you cant be held against you but there are no guarantee you will find a other P.M. Doctors are not your or any patient friend their just business men/women called doctors. Don’t share your feelings with them, they just want to put the pegs in right hole to get money. Sad as it is. Also, they may use your information/ feelings against you. Learn to walk on eggshells with them it’s in your best interest. Again deeply sorry for your pain and the horrible reply from your doctor. I hope anything I said you will not be slighted as intended as help.

Thomas Wayne Kidd

Has anyone noticed that this pestilence came right on the heels of the evil government policy on pain patients and their absolute necessity for opioid pain medications? Doesn’t this set off an alarm in the brain? These things taking place are not accidents. WAKEY WAKE OUR SHIP IS GOING DOWN. God has provided a life boat. GET ON BOARD WHILE THERE IS YET TIME. SEEK THE TRUE AND LIVING GOD with an honest and sincere heart. THE DAY OF SALVATION IS STILL HERE, BUT HAS AN END. CAST ASIDE YOUR TRADITIONS OF YOUR ELDERS AND BEGIN READING GOD’S WORD FOR YOURSELVES, PRAYING FOR UNDERSTANDING.

Maureen M.

I’m glad you are hanging in there Ellen. As for me, a long time CP warrior and Systemic Lupus I am compromised/high risk. I am keeping my stress/anxiety levels down though, knowing that this too shall pass. I remain diligent and keep busy at home, as best I can to get through each day. I live alone therefore I must keep update and strive on to keep safe.
And then there is the issue of doctors negligently giving well people scripts for Plaquenil ‘just in case they get sick’ which is causing us Lupus folks to have to worry about supplies for our own medication fills. If a well person thinks they can take it as precaution they are crazy! it will mess up their immune system big time. That med is still under ‘study’ for COVID 19 anyway!!
Everyone is in such a false panic!
Positives: My faith is even stronger at this time. I reach out to others via email and calls to encourage them to keep patient and safe.
If anything, my biggest hope is that after this all passes and heals…that folks won’t remain so isolated or non social due to a lasting fear. Will we ever hug or shake hands ever again?!
I find it so sad to see others in the food store etc not looking at each other or nodding hello etc anymore. Everyone walks around like robots with blinders on. Far too strange for me.
Keep strong, patient and safe ya’ll!

@ Tony- I’m so sorry for your losses. Hang in there and try to keep focused.
Sending a prayer and a healing hug your way.

Thomas Wayne Kidd

Let’s not deceive ourselves into thinking that this is anything like WWII. What is taking place is much more than in those days. But people just close their ears and hearts to reality. The belief that the end of time grows nearer has been replaced by secular humanist ideas and especially evolution. More and much worse pestilence are coming. The Salvation which our Creator and Redeemer brought 2000+ years has become a joke to most people and is ignored, mocked and ridiculed daily without fear. The banning of any and all things pertaining to Christ and His teachings has brought His judgment upon a once blessed nation. Yet this nation expects His blessings to continue. People speak of the horrible killing of 6 million Jews but think nothing of the over 80 million babies murdered in the mother’s wombs since 1973. The destruction of the ancient cities of Sodom and Gomorrah is a joke and a fairy tale to most people today. Those claiming to bed Christian mock the Blessed Redeemer as they have changed their Word of the Living God into a lie. They sleep on in their spiritual dreamland as darkness covers the earth and gross darkness the people. Anti-Christian teachings have brought our nation to the side of the pit and evil mankind is pushing it in. The great Apostle Paul said this to the Church of his day and to us who claim Jesus today; “But of the times and the seasons, brethren, ye have no need that write unto you. For yourselves know perfectly well that the DAY OF THE LORD so cometh as a thief in the night. For when they shall say, Peace and safety; then sudden destruction cometh up them, as travail upon a woman with child; and they shall not escape. But ye, brethren, are are not in darkness, that that day should overtake you.” (1st. Thessalonians 5:1—4). This is not where the people of Living God are today. A spiritually sleeping Church will perish. But I understand that most people who read this will continue to hide the heads in the sand OF delusion.

Karen B Acheson

Thank You, Ellen, for this wonderful message!


Today panic set it. I feel like I’m facing the executioner with this virus growing exponentially everyday. If I get it I’ll die. I won’t even be considered worthy enough for a ventilator because of my preexisting conditions of auto immune illness and asthma. I am so heartbroken over what’s happening around the world and feel so sad for those that have it left to die alone. I have suffered all my life this cannot be how it ends for me. I am in love with the love of my life and am loved just as much and don’t want to be separated from him by death. I worry about his safety as he’s considered an essential worker. Im trying to be safe and I don’t really go out anywhere except yesterday I needed essential things from the store and wanted to give him a break because he’s been doing it all to protect me. All I can do is pray. I wear gloves and have access to N95 masks and wear them when I’m out. Even going as far as carrying a huge can of lysol. I don’t care what anyone thinks im not taking any chances these days. Please be safe everyone and God bless us all.

Tony hardy

Chronic pain patients can’t do anything, the Corana virus has no impact on me and alot of pain patients that are being screwed by our doctors and and the government. I have noticed to that doctors are lieing a lot more now, giving misinformation and spreading lies and making up rules or fake laws this is especially true for Pain management doctor. I can’t be treated for my anxiety or depression because I’m a pain patient. My wife and daughter died 2 weeks apart about 3 years ago. My doctor says just get over it, he has I’m lucky because he hates his wife he told me. It’s disgusting he said that, but being a pain patient I can’t just switch doctors because I will be punished for doing so. I’m in Florida by the way, health care here is a joke and Medicade covers nothing, not meds, not pain management docs, not MRIs! Medicade is a joke and a waste


I wish it was 10 years ago. I would have a lifetime of old style vicodon. now it is just almost time
They dont give enough to live a life and so it is just weeks until it is time to give in to the NWO. I WAS HERE.Dyill lets all pray for a apr 8 relocation. Passover